You need to give them time and space without getting jealous
aft a few months or yrs 2gthr, couples can settle down into a 'couple personality' wic is gr8ter den da sum of its parts. u do tinks 2ghtr, socialize 2ghtr, find shared interests 2ghtr.
tis is all very lovey-dovey n swit, but it ignores da fact dat u r oso separate pple. it doesnt matter how much u had in common wen u met, ur partner has sum interests separate frm urs. mayb u met thru a passionate hobby n u bof wan 2 devote most of ur free tym 2 yachting or stamp collecting. but even so, u may wan 2 concentrate on different aspects of it, or there may b othr lesser interests too.
ur partner nids sum tym 2 do their own tink in their own way n even on their own. mayb they wan 2 mit up wif their best mates(lets say a guy) wifout u there, or shut themselves away 4 an hr or so at a tym reading poetry or sewing. and u nid 2 giv dem da tym n da space 2 do dat wifout getting stroppy or jeles or niggly abt it.
if ur nvr out of each othr's company, u bof turn into sum kind of hybrid creature incorporating bits of bof of u, u'll end up losing sight of da person u 1st fell in love wif. dats not gonna help ur relationship bcoz if dat happens, dats wen da whole tink loses its sparkle, its magic n bcums tedious.
im not trying 2 dictate how much tym u spend in each othr's company. in fact im not trying 2 dictate anytink - im juz telling u wat wrks if u wanna b happy in love. sum couples r rarely apart n yet still nanage 2 respect each othr's space. sum rarely socialize wifout each othr. but 4 most couples, abit more space helps tinks along n means dat u hav sumtink 2 tok abt.
the odds r dat u nid abit of space frm ur partner frm tym 2 tym. mayb u nid alot. dats ok if its btwn reasons. the important tink is 2 recognize dat wen they wanna do sumtink on their own, its not a rejection of u, its simply bcoz of who they r. its their way of touching base n staying happy n if u dun let dem do it, u'll lose da person u love most.
so no niggling, no irritation, no jealousy, no childish behaviour wen ur partner tells u they nid abit of space. be pleased 4 dem n 4 urself bcoz tis is wats gonna keep ur relationship fresh.
tis is all very lovey-dovey n swit, but it ignores da fact dat u r oso separate pple. it doesnt matter how much u had in common wen u met, ur partner has sum interests separate frm urs. mayb u met thru a passionate hobby n u bof wan 2 devote most of ur free tym 2 yachting or stamp collecting. but even so, u may wan 2 concentrate on different aspects of it, or there may b othr lesser interests too.
ur partner nids sum tym 2 do their own tink in their own way n even on their own. mayb they wan 2 mit up wif their best mates(lets say a guy) wifout u there, or shut themselves away 4 an hr or so at a tym reading poetry or sewing. and u nid 2 giv dem da tym n da space 2 do dat wifout getting stroppy or jeles or niggly abt it.
if ur nvr out of each othr's company, u bof turn into sum kind of hybrid creature incorporating bits of bof of u, u'll end up losing sight of da person u 1st fell in love wif. dats not gonna help ur relationship bcoz if dat happens, dats wen da whole tink loses its sparkle, its magic n bcums tedious.
im not trying 2 dictate how much tym u spend in each othr's company. in fact im not trying 2 dictate anytink - im juz telling u wat wrks if u wanna b happy in love. sum couples r rarely apart n yet still nanage 2 respect each othr's space. sum rarely socialize wifout each othr. but 4 most couples, abit more space helps tinks along n means dat u hav sumtink 2 tok abt.
the odds r dat u nid abit of space frm ur partner frm tym 2 tym. mayb u nid alot. dats ok if its btwn reasons. the important tink is 2 recognize dat wen they wanna do sumtink on their own, its not a rejection of u, its simply bcoz of who they r. its their way of touching base n staying happy n if u dun let dem do it, u'll lose da person u love most.
so no niggling, no irritation, no jealousy, no childish behaviour wen ur partner tells u they nid abit of space. be pleased 4 dem n 4 urself bcoz tis is wats gonna keep ur relationship fresh.
